Woman mortified after receiving message from school mum about her daughter - in error

The mum was left mortified when she read the message (Stock Image)

There's nothing worse than finding out that people are meeting up without you, as you can get serious FOMO.

But one woman was left gutted when she was sent a message on a WhatsApp group from one of her daughter's friend's mums, inviting her to a BBQ - but it turns out that she was sent the message by mistake, leaving her feeling mortified.

She explained that her 14-year-old daughter has "two close friends at school", and since she started high school they "have had these friends over for sleepovers and get-togethers multiple times". The mum shared that for her daughter's birthday for the last two years, they've also taken the girls away with them.

Taking to Mumsnet, the woman explained that she knows both mothers of the girls, but "no more than chit chat". She wrote: "On my daughter's last birthday weekend I created a WhatsApp group between me and both mothers so I could say when we were at the hotel and send some photos of them all.

"My daughter asked me two days ago if she could go to friend A's house for a bbq for friend A's mum's birthday tomorrow. Of course, no problem. Today I received a WhatsApp via the group chat I created saying 'Hi B's mum, I'm having a BBQ tomorrow for my birthday. Would you both like to come? Just an informal BBQ, jeans and t-shirt type thing. Let me know'!"

The woman explained that she was "initially excited" that she'd been invited, and one of her daughter's friends' mums wanted to get to know her better - until she realised that the message wasn't addressed to her.

"Then B's mum answered saying she would love to go and what could she bring", she continued, sharing: "A's mum then posted a voice note saying there were only a few invited and went on to list her husband's brother, business partner, pottery group friend and B.

"She then said her daughter had also invited B's child and 'some other child' - my daughter. Not even mentioned by name! I wasn't on the list and I realised she thinks she has only messaged B's mum."

The mum was left wondering whether she should say anything to her daughter's friend's mum, because she didn't want an "awkward invite", and she felt "embarrassed" at the situation.

She finished her post by penning: "I'm super embarrassed that I'm stuck in the middle of this and don't know if I should let her know her error. I'm also p****d that she referred to my daughter as 'some other child'. I'll be dropping my daughter off for the BBQ tomorrow so it makes it really awkward. I won't be getting out of my car but still!"

In the comments, some urged her to respond - but without emotion. One said: "I'd probably respond with a message 'Oops, that clearly wasn't meant for me'. Neutral enough so she doesn't know how you feel about it but will force her to clarify."

Another responded: "The other woman must be dying of secondhand embarrassment. If you're certain the invitation wasn't for you, I'd just ignore. If you have a partner get them to do the drop off."

Someone else suggested: "I'd ignore. She is the one who should feel awkward not you. I'd be annoyed at some other child bit when they've been together as a three and B’s mum clearly knows your daughter".

"Her child has been on multiple weekends away with yours and she doesn't know your child's name? Who did she think she was sending her child to stay with?", a Mumsnetter fumed.

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