Dads, How You Guide Your Son Will Shape The Man He Becomes

Maybe we won't notice, but our children will always see us, look up to us, and observe us. Whether they are little ones or nearing adulthood, what they see in their father will forever influence the person they want to become. Dads, this is your reminder always to be cautious with your character and actions in front of your children. If you want to mold your son to be a better man in this world, show him every day. You might not easily see or feel how important you are, but in their eyes, you are their role model. Your children love the imperfect you. Understanding our children's perspective is vital for fostering a strong and healthy relationship with them.

This Father's month, a 17-year-old son wrote a heartfelt open letter expressing his deep appreciation for his father's guidance and support as he approaches adulthood. The son reflects on his father's impactful actions, which have positively influenced his journey toward independence. This letter provides valuable insight, allowing us to see the world through their eyes and empathize with their experiences and challenges.

A son's open letter to dad as he enters adulthood

Dear Dad,

When I think of the countless life lessons you've taught me, one that stuck with me is something I apply to my daily life. Whenever I make mistakes due to a lapse of judgment or just pure stupidity, you always say, "That's not how a man should act."

At first, this line made me mad since it seemed to generalize the stereotype of how a man should act. But as I grew older, I realized it was much deeper. I start to appreciate the way you provide happiness, love, and care for our family. Whenever we have a problem, you're the one to solve it; whenever we are sad, you're the one to put smiles on our faces.

"As I stand on the edge of adulthood, I find myself thinking more and more about the kind of person I want to be."

Now that I am nearing adulthood and have to decide the kind of person I want to be, I start to remember you and think, "That's the man I want to be." I am filled with a renewed sense of determination and hope, realizing that whenever you say, "That's not how a man should act," you want me to be the one that solves problems for Mom and to put a smile on her face the same way you do.

COURTESY OF KENJI LUCIANO

You have become a huge role model for me, and I aspire to be the man that you are. Although we have arguments and misunderstandings, you never stopped loving me and kept guiding me to be a strong, mature man who loves Mom just as you love her.

Another important lesson you taught me is the importance of hard work and perseverance. Even though you didn't finish college, and even though Mom makes enough for us, you still find a way to provide and contribute to our family. On top of your work, you also do the chores around the house: doing the laundry, taking care of our dogs, and doing whatever Mom asks. And, of course, I try my best to help since I want to lessen the burden you carry as the man of the house.

COURTESY OF KENJI LUCIANO

You keep telling me to do my best in everything I do and that I can be a better man than you are when the time comes. I greatly appreciate everything you've done to help me reach my full potential. Because of you, I always remember the need to work hard and persevere in everything I do to be a successful man you can be proud of.

You never complained about the sacrifices you had to make, and your dedication has always inspired me. You taught me that success can be challenging and is the result of consistent effort and determination. This lesson has stayed with me and drives me to put my best into everything I do.

Your sense of humor and the simple things that bring you happiness have taught me how to maintain a positive attitude toward life. You can laugh at something even when times are hard, and that has kept our family together and optimistic through all the hard times. You are a very joyful man, and from you, I have learned that a smile may be the best solution for us to face some of the challenges that life offers.

COURTESY OF KENJI LUCIANO

As I stand on the edge of adulthood, I find myself thinking more and more about the kind of person I want to be. When I look at you, I see a man who is kind and strong, with the utmost sense of integrity. You are not just a father but also a mentor, friend, and beacon of what it means to lead a good life. I desire to be like you, pass forward all of your teachings, and make you proud.

The influence of your life on me is immeasurable. The one constant source of love, wisdom, and strength has been you, who has guided me through the complexities of growing up. Your teachings have molded my character and continue to do so as I go through life's journey. I am deeply, profoundly thankful to have you and for your profound impact on me.

As I enter adulthood, I hope to honor your legacy by living out the values you taught me and becoming the kind of man who, like you, makes the world a little less haunted and a little lighter for those around me.

Love,

Kenji

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Kenji is the nephew of Victoria Dang, and is entering Grade 12 this school year.