Flight attendant reveals passengers' 'GREEN flags' that tell her if a person is 'really cool'... so, do YOU qualify?

• Destanie Armstrong, of Philadelphia, has worked as a flight attendant for years 
• She shares insights from her job to TikTok, amassing nearly 60,000 followers
• As her latest topic, she tackled the benevolent things that passengers do

A flight attendant has revealed the passenger behaviors that qualify as ‘green flags’ in her book – from moments of interpersonal connection to simple consideration of fellow travelers.

Destanie Armstrong, a flight attendant from Philadelphia, has built a sizable TikTok following of nearly 60,000 sharing insights from her years on the job.

The latest topic she’s tackled? Green flags – that is, signs someone’s a decent person – as observed in passengers on her flights.

‘I feel like I say a lot about the negative experiences that I have with passengers. But some of y’all are really cool. So here’s the things that I like,’ Destanie began the five-minute video.

Destanie, of Philadelphia, took to her popular TikTok account to share things she’s noticed about passengers that make them decent people in her book – also known as ‘green flags’

First up was when passengers acknowledge the flight attendants greeting them as they board.

‘A lot of people will just ignore us. I love when a passenger asks how we’re doing or stuff about our day,’ she said.

‘It feels like I’m actually connecting with people. I thought with this job that I would connect with people a lot more. I feel like I never have conversations with passengers,’ she admitted.

Second was any ‘small considerate acts.’

For instance, Destanie explained, she works on a plane with larger overhead bins, on which are diagrams instructing passengers to put their bag in sideways, to make room for more luggage.

When she’s seen someone notice those diagrams, and adjust their bag accordingly, she’s always felt appreciative.

Likewise, more generally, when people actually listen to flight attendants’ announcements Destanie gushed that it makes the crew members’ lives much easier.

The third green flag, which she described as her ‘most favorite,’ is when a passenger makes an effort to commiserate with a member of cabin crew if they have just been subjected to obnoxious behavior by another traveler.

The flight attendant has built a sizable TikTok following of nearly 60,000 sharing insights from her years on the job

‘I love when a passenger is giving me a hard time, and another passenger is observing it, and they make a joke about it,’ she said. ‘It’s so funny.’

Even a passenger making knowing eye contact with the flight attendant who’s dealing with the discourteous behavior adds a silver lining to the stressful interaction.

‘The other day, a passenger was being really rude to me. And this old man looked at me and he goes, “You having fun yet, sweetheart?” And I was like, “You see me!”‘ recalled Destanie.

Next up, the flight attendant dished: ‘During service, I love when the person already has one earphone out. They’re ready to order. They know what they want. They’re respectful,’ said Destanie.

‘You’d be surprised at how many people keep their headphones on and you’re like, “What would you like to drink?” And they’re like, “Huh?”‘ she further described.

The passengers who know what they want as soon as the flight attendant walks up are the ones Destanie really appreciates.

The fifth behavior on her list of passenger green flags is when they ‘ask’ if it’s okay to be in the flight attendants’ work area.

‘When I was a passenger, I thought you couldn’t even go to a flight attendant’s galley. I thought people weren’t even allowed in there. That’s their workspace, right?’ she said.

‘You’d be shocked at how many people will just walk in there, don’t acknowledge us, will stand there without saying anything to us, or start stretching on our emergency exits.

‘I’m like, “Ma’am, please stop doing Pilates on our emergency exits.” And then they get mad!’ Destanie recounted.

‘We had a man there [when] we were preparing for service and the galley is really small, so we asked him to sit down while we prepared for service. He got so mad, he asked for the girl’s name. And then after we walked off the flight, and he was waiting there and filming us!’ she recalled.

‘I don’t understand the entitlement of being in our space, I genuinely don’t.’

She went on to emphasize that she’s encountered a few polite passengers who ask if they can stand in the galley which she has no problem with.

Destanie said that sixth on her list is ‘when people have good manners, but especially kids.’

‘When kids have good manners, I’m like, “Where are your parents? Cause they are doing such a good job.” Like if a kid is completely sweet, especially the bratty ages, like, if a 10-year-old is super sweet, I’m like, “Good job parents.”

‘Because there are so many bratty kids these days!’ she exclaimed.

Last but not least, Destanie explained: ‘I love when a married man is not too friendly with us.’

‘I have not been hit on many times working. The times that guys have tried to chat me up, they’ve always had a ring on their finger which literally makes me so upset.

‘Complimenting me, or asking if I’m going to be laying over in the same place that they’re gonna be laying over. What I’m gonna be doing on my layover,’ she added of married men’s pick-up strategies.

‘Which, that’s not bad, but it’s the vibes. I think about it in the way where I’m like, “If my husband was talking to a girl like this, mm mm,”‘ she added, shaking her head no.

‘I love when a married man has a ring on his finger and his wife’s not there, and he’s kind to us, but not too kind.

‘That’s the kind of man I’d want to marry – kind, but not too kind,’ she concluded.

Hundreds took to the comments to reflect on Destanie’s takes, including some of her fellow flight attendants

Hundreds of viewers took to the comments to reflect on Destanie’s takes.

‘I always say hi back but I never want to initiate any convos cause y’all look busy and I don’t want to bother you,’ one admitted of the boarding process – to which Destanie responded: ‘I totally see that.’

‘No one listening is so real. I feel like I’m talking to myself,’ a fellow flight attendant commiserated.

‘Talking to a brick wall,’ Destanie agreed.

‘I feel like some of these are bare minimum manners… I hope you’ll meet more nice passengers!’ a third chimed in.

‘It is the bare minimum but that shows you how much people don’t give the bare minimum LOL,’ Destanie pointed out.

This is far from the first deep dive Destanie has done into the realities of being a flight attendant on her TikTok.

In the past, she’s shared the worst parts about her job, from the rude passengers to the low pay and erratic scheduling.

She’s also dished on the craziest things passengers have tried in a bid to be upgraded to first class.

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