Pregnant mom REFUSES to share baby updates with husband's parents

• Morgan Strickell, from California, is currently 12 weeks along in her pregnancy
• She was sad to hear that her mother-in-law felt ‘hurt’ about not hearing updates
• From that point on, she insisted that her husband start communicating better

A woman has shared why she’s insisting her husband be the ‘primary communicator’ with his side of the family when if comes to news around her pregnancy.

Morgan Strickell, a resident of Northern California who is 12 weeks along, took to TikTok to break down why she wasn’t willing to do the legwork to keep both her and her husband’s relatives updated about the forthcoming addition to the family.

‘I refuse to be the primary communicator with my husband’s side of the family, and I wanna talk about this,’ Morgan began the two-and-a-half minute clip.

She went on to explain that, a few weeks back, her mother-in-law had confessed over the phone she felt ‘a little bit hurt because she keeps finding out things about our pregnancy from her sister, who sees the posts on social media.’

Morgan Strickell, a resident of Northern California who is 12 weeks along, took to TikTok to break down why she wasn’t willing to do the legwork

After she heard that her mother-in-law was ‘hurt’ about not getting updates about the pregnancy, Morgan insisted her husband take it upon him to communicate with his mom

However, Morgan continued, she’d been under the impression that her husband had been keeping his mom updated.

‘I didn’t know he hadn’t been,’ she said.

‘So we were talking about an upcoming ultrasound last night, and I said, “Don’t forget to send that to your mom so that her feelings aren’t hurt.”

‘And he said, “Why don’t you just send it to my mom?”

‘And I said, “No, sir, not my responsibility. I communicate with my side of the family. You communicate with your side of the family.”‘

Still, the husband pushed back, expressing that he felt it wasn’t ‘that much more responsibility’ for Morgan to share the ultrasound pics with his mom, too.

‘And I say, “That is not my responsibility. It’s your responsibility to communicate that to your people, because it’s my responsibility to communicate that to my people,”‘ Morgan explained of standing firm on the marital issue.

‘So essentially, we had a little back and forth. And these are my points to him.

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Thousands of viewers took to the comments to express their support of Morgan’s taking a hard stance on the issue of not acting as her husband’s ‘kin keeper,’ as she put it

‘Number one, I’m not his kin keeper. If he wants to maintain a relationship with the people in his life and have them know information about our lives, that is 100 per cent on him.

‘Number two, I think this tends to fall on women’s shoulders because it’s either assumed that they have a larger social battery or that they have more time.

‘Neither of those things are true in our relationship,’ Morgan insisted.

‘My husband has a much larger social battery than I do. And he also tends to have more free time, just because I like to take on projects outside of work.

‘But third and final, not a single person would look to my husband as [though] it was his responsibility if my mom was left out of the loop. If my mom doesn’t know what’s going on, I’m a bad daughter. If his mom doesn’t know what’s going on, bad daughter-in-law?

‘But that’s not how things work in our relationship. We are a partnership. He has his responsibility, I have my responsibility. That’s how it’s always worked. He knew I was like this from day one,’ Morgan continued.

She added that she has a good relationship with her mother-in-law, and the two do ‘communicate about things.’

‘I just don’t want it to be my sole responsibility to make sure she’s getting information,’ insisted Morgan.

‘I married a grown adult who had good communication with his mom before I met him. There’s no reason that that should be shifted onto my responsibility plate now that we’re together.’

Through more than 10,000 comments, viewers expressed support of Morgan’s boundary in the shared communication responsibilities in their family dynamic.

‘”Not his kin keeper.” My new favorite phrase,’ expressed one.

‘If he thinks it’s not much work for you… it shouldn’t be much work for him’, argued a second.

‘I’m on your side and I’m actually the mom of three boys who don’t communicate with me, but it is their responsibility to keep me in the loop not their wives,’ a third chimed in, with experience on the matter.

And, as a fourth succinctly argued: ‘See if he said to me “it’s not that much more responsibility” I would simply say “exactly! So you have no excuse not to do it” and walk away.’

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