Voices: Why you shouldn't do your dream career

the latest tech news, global tech news daily, tech news today, startups, usa tech, asia tech, china tech, eu tech, global tech, in-depth electronics reviews, 24h tech news, 24h tech news, top mobile apps, tech news daily, gaming hardware, big tech news, useful technology tips, expert interviews, reporting on the business of technology, venture capital funding, programing language

YE – Performing in the Pandemic (2020 Invision)

The voice inside my head kept saying: “You love to make people laugh. Be a stand-up comedian.”

the latest tech news, global tech news daily, tech news today, startups, usa tech, asia tech, china tech, eu tech, global tech, in-depth electronics reviews, 24h tech news, 24h tech news, top mobile apps, tech news daily, gaming hardware, big tech news, useful technology tips, expert interviews, reporting on the business of technology, venture capital funding, programing language

I ignored the voice. I found success at New York Public Radio as the Program Guide Editor, working with producers, interviewing celebrities, and creating a kick-ass monthly guide. I was thrilled. However, my plum position there ended abruptly, along with my engagement to my fiancé, all in the same week. I felt broken. I was 35, single and I feared for my sanity. Then the voice returned: “Do stand-up comedy. Follow your dream!”

And so I decided to do it. I took a four-week class that culminated in a performance at the Stand Up New York comedy club. I was one of eight newcomers to the comedy scene who learned how to write jokes and stay comfortable onstage. On the night of my first performance, my stage fright was out of control, and I almost fled. Instead, I ran to the bathroom and practiced.

Global Tech News Daily

“Coming up next, let’s hear it for comedian Terry Moore!” the emcee roared.

Wait — did he say comedian and Terry Moore in the same sentence? My body was shaking as I ran onstage and grabbed the microphone. My hair was damp from sweat, and my nerves were frayed from anticipation. I did my first joke with some hesitation, but the audience laughed. I was shocked. It became easier: a joke, followed by laughter. Exhilaration!

Global Tech News Daily

The club’s general manager booked me in for the next month. Soon I was working in the club’s basement office with three fellow startup comedians called Drew, Luke* and Dave. We took reservations, helped each other write jokes, took guesses at what the smell was in the basement, and ducked when the hissing pipes spit out hot water. We’d finish the day watching each other perform. I was finally recognized as a comedian. The future held so much promise.

But that joy was short-lived. The pay was terrible, and my savings account dwindled. I filed for bankruptcy and food stamps. My father was diagnosed with multiple myeloma. My drinking escalated with the club’s free alcohol. I slept with a fellow stand-up who couldn’t afford a mattress, but gave me an STD. I thought I was a lesbian but realized I was drunk.

My father’s cancer progressed rapidly. During his final days, I wasn’t at his side because I was chasing stage time. After he died, my mother was appalled. She stopped talking to me, but sent a $5,000 check and wrote in the memo section: GET A REAL JOB!

Soon after, my co-worker Luke* had a nervous breakdown on stage and was committed to hospital. I worried, not just because he was losing his mind, but because I’d slept with him the prior week and wondered whether my chlamydia might have infected his brain. While visiting Luke at the psychiatric ward, a famous comedian’s manager asked me to host a show at Bananas, a comedy club in suburban New York where his client was headlining. You couldn’t make it up.

I said yes to the gig at Bananas, and when I arrived, the performance was sold out, with 700 audience members. I was nervous as hell. “Ladies and gentlemen, welcome our host for tonight – Terry Moore!” That’s me! I walked to the stage and started my act. Dead silence… except for the lady in the front row who said loudly, “She looks scared to death.” She was right. I bombed.

Later that night, I was a big hit in the famous funny man’s bedroom, even if I couldn’t be onstage. As I lay naked and embarrassed that no one had laughed, he said, “It happens all the time. It’s called the comedy life.” We continued to see each other, and I wanted to marry him — but he was married to comedy. We parted after a few months, and I next spotted him smiling and laughing on a 20-foot digital billboard in Times Square, advertising his Comedy Central Presents special. My heart broke every time I glimpsed his face on subways, taxis, and buses and heard his voice on the WNYC’s Fresh Air with Terry Gross.

Just when my heart was healing, another comic friend was found dead on the hottest night in June, sitting in front of her air-conditioner. I had seen her days before, when she was excited to be auditioning to be a warm-up comedian for a tabloid talk show. People said it was drugs that killed her, but I think it was the comedy life. That life was shaking me down, too.

Months later, at a comedy club in Greenwich Village, I had a great set and was about to head home. Someone from the audience approached me. He told me he enjoyed my humor. He was kind and sweet. He wasn’t a comedian, but he knew how to make me laugh. A year later, he became my husband. We live in New York City, and we don’t have children; we have houseplants. I stopped doing comedy, and now I write for a living.

All of this brings me back to one central piece of advice: Don’t follow your dreams. Or, at the very least, avoid stand-up comedy unless you’re wealthy or willing to fail hard in a pool of dead friends and work in smelly basements. I had good intentions — I just wanted to make people laugh. I was the one making the jokes, but the dream of becoming a stand-up comedian made a joke out of me.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to stay in your comfort zone. As with most mistakes, good things can blossom from them. I found a husband with a job and a mattress, I met comedians I now call friends, and with the help of a very strong antibiotic my chlamydia is cured.

Terry Moore is working on a memoir about the comedy world titled “Crowd Pleaser”

*Luke is a pseudonym

News Related

OTHER NEWS

New York Rangers get another comeback win to force Game 7 vs. Pittsburgh Penguins

PITTSBURGH — How many times can the New York Rangers dig themselves into a hole and climb back out? At least one more, as of Friday night. The Blueshirts came ... Read more »

Wilson, balanced Aces cruise to 96-73 victory over Dream

COLLEGE PARK, Ga. (AP) — A’ja Wilson scored 15 points, Kelsey Plum had 14 points and 11 assists and the Las Vegas Aces rolled to a 96-73 victory over the ... Read more »

EXPLAINER: Why frustration lingers in Okinawa 50 years later

The Associated PressFILE – U.S. Marine Corps Sgt. Mike Anglen of Turner, Ore., center, stands atop a cliff as Sgt. Bryan Wallace of Pikin, Ill., waits for his turn before ... Read more »

Astros beat Nationals 6-1 for 11th straight victory

WASHINGTON (AP) — Jose Altuve homered on the first pitch of the game, Yordan Alvarez and Yuli Gurriel also went deep and the Houston Astros extended their winning streak to ... Read more »

Kreider scores late, Rangers edge Pens 5-3 to force Game 7

PITTSBURGH (AP) — Chris Kreider’s long slap shot bounced over Louis Domingue and into the net with 1:28 left and the New York Rangers beat the Pittsburgh Penguins 5-3 on ... Read more »

Astros push winning streak to 11, roll past Nationals 6-1

WASHINGTON (AP) — Jose Altuve homered on the first pitch of the game, and Yordan Alvarez and Yuli Gurriel also went deep to help the Houston Astros extend their winning ... Read more »

Moustakas, Drury power Reds to 8-2 victory over Pirates

PITTSBURGH (AP) — Mike Moustakas homered twice and Brandon Drury drove in four runs to break out of a slump and lead the resurgent Cincinnati Reds to an 8-2 victory ... Read more »

Peterson's bases-loaded walk lifts Brewers over Marlins 2-1

MIAMI (AP) — Jace Peterson walked against Anthony Bender with the bases loaded in the ninth inning and the Milwaukee Brewers beat the Miami Marlins 2-1 Friday night. After starters ... Read more »

Padres: No cancer found during manager Bob Melvin's prostate surgery

SAN DIEGO (AP) — The San Diego Padres say no cancer was found when manager Bob Melvin had prostate surgery on Wednesday. Melvin, 60, was recovering at home Friday after ... Read more »

Ogunbowale, Gray help Wings rally past Mystics, 94-86

WASHINGTON (AP) — Arike Ogunbowale scored 27 points, Allisha Gray had 21 and the Dallas Wings overcame a 15-point second-quarter deficit to beat the Washington Mystics 94-86 on Friday night. ... Read more »

Resigning North Dakota senator led lawmakers in travel costs

The Associated PressFILE – North Dakota Sen. Ray Holmberg listens during a joint House and Senate Appropriations Committee meeting at the Capitol in Bismarck, N.D., on Jan. 7, 2009. Holmberg, ... Read more »

Residents in picturesque California county hit with gas prices topping $7 a gallon

A California county known for its spectacular mountains and proximity to Yosemite National Park has been paying the nation’s highest gas prices. Read more »

Boudreau to return as coach of Canucks next season

VANCOUVER, British Columbia (AP) — Bruce Boudreau will return as coach of the Vancouver Canucks next season after helping to turn the struggling NHL club around as a midyear replacement. ... Read more »

New Zealand leader Jacinda Ardern tests positive for COVID

On Location: May 13, 2022 Catch up on the developing stories making headlines.The Associated Press WELLINGTON, New Zealand — New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern has tested positive for COVID-19 ... Read more »

Today in History for May 14th

Highlights of this day in history: Colonists go ashore in Virginia to set up Jamestown; Lewis and Clark begin to explore Louisiana Territory; Israel founded; Skylab launched; Movie producer George ... Read more »

Twitter CEO expects Elon Musk acquisition to close, addresses spending cuts

Musk is awaiting details supporting calculations that spam, fake accounts represent less than 5% of Twitter's users Read more »

Padres: No cancer found during Bob Melvin's prostate surgery

SAN DIEGO (AP) — The San Diego Padres say no cancer was found when manager Bob Melvin had prostate surgery on Wednesday. Melvin, 60, was recovering at home Friday after ... Read more »

Renovated NYC museum shows indigenous perspectives

The American Museum of Natural History in New York City recently finished a major renovation of its exhibition on the native peoples of the northwest coast of North America. Curators ... Read more »

Police release 911 calls in Gilgo Beach case

A woman who disappeared in a beach community on New York’s Long Island more than a decade ago, sparking an investigation into a possible serial killer, said “there’s somebody after ... Read more »

Academy Awards set 2023 Oscars for March 12

The Associated PressFILE – Oscar statue on the red carpet at the Oscars on Sunday, March 27, 2022, at the Dolby Theatre in Los Angeles. Next year’s Academy Awards will ... Read more »

Actor Fred Ward, of 'Tremors,' 'The Right Stuff' fame, dies

The Associated PressFILE – Fred Ward, a cast member in “30 Minutes or Less,” poses at the premiere of the film in Los Angeles on Aug. 8, 2011. Ward, a ... Read more »

Judge refuses to drop elections suit against Trump, media

NEW YORK — A Colorado judge on Friday denied motions to dismiss a defamation lawsuit filed by an election systems worker against former President Donald Trump’s campaign, two of its ... Read more »

Q&A: Becky G unveils every side of herself in latest album

The Associated PressFILE – Becky G appears at the Oscars in Los Angeles on March 27, 2022. Beck G’s latest album is “Esquemas.” (AP Photo/Jae C. Hong, File) NEW YORK ... Read more »

North Korea reports 21 new deaths as it battles COVID-19 outbreak

SEOUL, South Korea — North Korea reports 21 new deaths as it battles COVID-19 outbreak. Read more »

North Korea confirms 21 new deaths as it battles COVID-19

SEOUL, South Korea — North Korea says 21 people died and 174,440 people were newly found with fever symptoms on Friday alone as the country scrambles to slow the spread ... Read more »

White Sox place Giolito on COVID list, activate Vaughn

The Chicago White Sox placed ace Lucas Giolito on the COVID-19 injured list and activated outfielder Andrew Vaughn following a rehab assignment with Triple-A Charlotte on Friday. Giolito began experiencing ... Read more »

Traded back and forth, Ford learns to live out of suitcase

NEW YORK (AP) — Mike Ford has learned to travel light — and quickly. Since the start of the season, the 29-year-old first baseman has played for Tacoma, San Francisco ... Read more »

Falcon 9 rocket launches Starlink satellites

A SpaceX Falcon 9 rocket launched 53 Starlink satellites to low-Earth orbit from California on Friday. (May 13) Read more »

Celtics' Robert Williams remains out for Game 6 vs. Bucks

MILWAUKEE (AP) — Boston forward/center Robert Williams missed his third straight game with an injured left knee as the Celtics tried to keep their season alive Friday night in Game ... Read more »

Padres sign Robinson Canó, plan to use him off the bench

ATLANTA (AP) — The San Diego Padres have signed veteran second baseman Robinson Canó to a major league contract and plan to use him as a left-handed bat off the ... Read more »

WNBA star's Russia detention extended by 1 month

The lawyer for WNBA star Brittney Griner says her pre-trial detention in Russia has been extended by one month. Alexander Boykov told The Associated Press the relatively short extension indicated ... Read more »

Louisiana justices toss COVID-related charges against pastor

Hundreds of thousands of Americans fighting long-haul symptoms from COVID-19 Dr. David Putrino from Mount Sinai Health System and COVID long-hauler Joel Fram discuss the long-term effects of the disease.The ... Read more »

Sandy Hook lawsuits against Alex Jones on track to resume

The Associated PressFILE – This Tuesday, Dec. 11, 2018, photo shows radio show host and conspiracy theorist Alex Jones at Capitol Hill in Washington. The Sandy Hook families’ lawsuits against ... Read more »

Rockies' Bryant closer to return after cortisone shot

DENVER (AP) — Colorado Rockies outfielder Kris Bryant took swings in the cage Friday for the first time since he was sidelined with a sore back nearly three weeks ago ... Read more »

Mariners demote Jarred Kelenic to minors after poor start

NEW YORK (AP) — Rather than make his Citi Field debut against the team that traded him, Jarred Kelenic was demoted to Triple-A Tacoma by the Seattle Mariners on Friday ... Read more »

Biden: ASEAN partnership 'critical' in this moment

Looking to strengthen ties, President Joe Biden welcomes leaders from the Association of Southeast Asian Nations to Washington for the first time. “We’re launching a new era in U.S.-ASEAN relations,” ... Read more »

Phil Mickelson will not defend his title at next week's PGA Championship

Phil Mickelson caught lightning in a bottle last year at Kiawah Island, winning a major championship at 50 years of age. The fairways flooded, and the golf world stood and ... Read more »

Tennessee Titans' Malik Willis on Ryan Tannehill's mentorship comments: 'Everything is cool'

The Tennessee Titans didn’t take issue with Ryan Tannehill’s comments about mentoring third-round rookie Malik Willis. Willis and coach Mike Vrabel were asked about Tannehill’s scrutinized remarks following the first ... Read more »

Lawyers plan suit against Lufthansa over Jewish passengers

Lawyers for 26 passengers said Friday they told Lufthansa that they will sue the German airline for refusing to let members of a large group of Orthodox Jewish passengers board ... Read more »

Wild face offseason after yet another early ouster

While the Minnesota Wild were stacking up franchise records and securing the extra home game for the first round, general manager Bill Guerin carefully acknowledged a “great year” for the ... Read more »