A Victorian man who repeatedly raped his wife in such a brutal and degrading manner that a sentencing judge was left “bereft of adequate words” has been jailed for than a decade.
Jon Seccull on Monday faced the Victorian County Court, where he was sentenced to a total of 15 years in prison.
A jury had previously found the 43-year-old guilty of nine counts of rape, two assaults and one threat to cause serious injury between 2011 and 2015.
Judge Frank Gucciardo said Seccull derived pleasure from the cruelty and “oppressive subjugation” of his wife, which would often leave her vomiting in the bathroom.
He would also punish her for seeing her friends or staying out too late.
At one point Seccull held a loaded gun at her before threatening to shoot himself in the driveway so their children would see.
Another time he broke into a caravan she was hiding in and attacked her.
“Such abhorrent conduct is breathtaking,” Judge Gucciardo told the court.
“This was brutal and cowardly … causing admonishment and terror for the victim.
“The indignity inflicted is of the highest order.”
The woman previously gave permission for AAP to name Seccull, knowing doing so would identify her. She wanted his name out there and for what he did to be known.
She met Seccull in 2000 and they married three years later.
Over the 13 years they were married he became progressively more abusive.
As well as the rapes, she was emotionally manipulated – told she was too fat, too stupid, too ugly. Good for nothing and not even that.
Seccull told her she was lucky he'd have her because no one else would.
The court previously heard the relationship has left the woman second guessing her ability to make decisions and she apologises for everything.
“I apologise for just existing at times – I cannot shake the sense that everything is my fault, even when it clearly is not,” she said.
The Ballarat man's lies were woven with just enough twisted truth they seemed slightly believable to those who didn't know her.
“And since I dared break the code of silence that enshrouds domestic violence, (I) faced the wrath of outing the abuser and besmirching 'the good bloke'.”
While crying on friends' shoulders she has wondered what good she is to them and has felt the weight of the shame some in society hold for the women who stay in abusive situations.
But she recognises that weight does not belong on her shoulders.
“I have to remember to lay that blame firmly at the feet of the perpetrator, the man who was meant to love me, my then-husband.”
Seccull must serve at least 10 years and six months behind bars before being eligible for parole.
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