My wife wants to leave our toddler behind and go on a month-long solo holiday to Europe because she's 'tired' - I'm furious

Mother wants to 'feel like herself again' after having a baby  She wants to go on a four-week European holiday alone  But her husband strongly disagrees  Read more: I got engaged in Bali - the photographer's reaction was hilarious

A husband was furious when his wife expressed her desire to venture to Europe alone after having a baby.

The 32-year-old man and his 30-year-old wife have been together for four years and share a 16-month-old daughter.

But the wife is ‘tired of feeling like a mum’ and wants to ‘earn’ some time back from parenting.

Sharing the details on Reddit, the husband couldn’t fathom why his partner would want to ‘abandon’ their child.

‘I do not think it is appropriate for a married person (and now a parent) to leave the household to be away from your family for more than that time. I thought my wife agreed with me because she held the same views as well,’ he wrote.

The postpartum wife is ‘tired of feeling like a mum’ and wants to ‘earn’ her time back from parenting by going on a four-week holiday to Europe (stock image)

The couple split home work duties evenly and the husband acknowledges just how challenging the postpartum phase is for mums.

‘I am also very pro-therapy, so regardless of any evaluations, I encouraged her to attend a few sessions,’ he wrote and explained she has postpartum depression (PPD),’ he wrote.

The pair had a massive fight as he doesn’t want her to leave for so long.

‘She says she is tired from feeling like a mum and wants to take a vacation for four weeks with her friend who is based in Europe,’ he continued.

‘Her reasoning for going for four weeks is that she gets to “earn” it after childbirth and 1.5 years of being a mum.’

The wife also has her own savings fund and has ‘always dreamt of exploring Europe one day’. She also ‘wants her identity back’.

But her husband strongly disagreed.

‘I do not think it is appropriate for a married person (and now a parent) to leave the household to be away from your family for more than that time. I thought my wife agreed with me because she held the same views as well,’ the husband wrote on Reddit (stock image)

‘I told her that priorities are bound to change and she cannot expect to have a single life back,’ he wrote.

‘I would happily step up and take on her share of childcare if she wanted to do a weekend trip or a spa day and would fully support that.’

But apparently this isn’t enough for her.

He said: ‘I told her if she wants to really do something about her savings, it would be great if WE could do something maybe as a couple or a family together because I also deserve a break as much as she does.

‘I told her how it’s selfish she is choosing to spend her savings entirely on herself when I nearly exhausted all MY personal savings on a large family expense.’

The man said he ‘can’t fathom the idea of a mum wanting to be away from her toddler for nearly a month’ and emotions ran high, leaving him feeling angry.

He added that he can’t be both a mum and a dad for their child for a while month.

‘She started crying and told me she wants to feel like herself again, and I told her she definitely can do something this weekend as well but her propositions are highly unrealistic,’ he said.

‘It seems that she does not want to accept things as they are. I suggested maybe she could get therapy and got told “I won’t accept the unacceptable” and how I was condescending her into therapy.’

The pair had a massive fight over the situation as he doesn’t want her to leave for so long (stock image)

The dilemma caught the attention of more than 2,700 people and over 2,200 comments were made.

Other Redditors said it would be ‘completely unfair’ on the partner to disappear for weeks.

‘Four weeks is too much and I say this as a stay-at-home mum who knows exactly how it feels to feel like you’re losing your identity to solely being a mother. A one-week get away is another story,’ one woman wrote.

‘She needs to find a compromise that doesn’t involve pinning all the duties on you for a whole month. I’d be absolutely livid and absolutely questioning my marriage if my husband told me he was going on a month long vacation and leaving me to deal with everything.’

Another stay-at-home mum wrote: ‘I understand the fantasy of exploring Europe for a months “escape” but know that it’s completely unrealistic, and completely unfair on not only partner but the child.’

Others considered it to be a ‘red flag’, while others agreed they’ve also fantasied about going on a holiday alone.

‘I definitely feel bad for this mom, although I think the four weeks away is excessive,’ another added.

Someone else liked the idea of going away for a week but not a month.