How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

If you’re a girl who has developed feelings for another female friend, it can be hard to know what to do about it. Start by examining your feelings and the situation more closely to decide if it’s worth telling her how you feel. If you decide to tell her, plan the conversation carefully. Then, listen to what she has to say and take it from there!

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Part 1 of 3: Feeling out the Situation Download Article

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Consider if you’re willing to risk your friendship to reveal your feelings. This is perhaps the most important thing to consider before you tell a female friend that you like her. Revealing your feelings may cause the relationship to become awkward or even end if she doesn’t feel the same way.

  • It’s also possible that she will return your feelings and the two of you might have a rewarding romantic relationship.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Look for signs that she’s interested in you romantically. Think about how she interacts with you and whether she has said or done anything to indicate that she might have feelings for you, too. Some things to watch for as evidence that a girl might like you include:

  • Body language cues, such as smiling, leaning in towards you, watching your mouth, touching you lightly, etc.
  • Messaging you often, either just to chat with you or to make plans with you.
  • Asking you lots of questions about yourself and showing genuine interest in you.
  • Mirroring your body movements, such as placing an elbow on the table in front of them when you do.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Imagine how you would feel if you never got a chance to tell her. If you’re on the fence about whether or not to tell her how you feel, taking the opposite perspective may help you to decide if you should say something. Try to imagine how you might feel if she moved away and you never told her how you felt. Would it feel like a missed opportunity? Would you be sad about not having told her? If so, then you may want to tell her as soon as possible.

  • If the idea of not telling her makes you feel relieved, then it might be better to say nothing for now.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Talk with a trustworthy friend about your feelings for the girl. Mulling over your feelings on your own is unlikely to help you decide if you should tell her. Instead, grab a trustworthy friend and tell them what you’re thinking. They can offer their perspective on the situation, which might help you to decide if you should say something.

  • For example, your friend might tell you whether or not they see you and this person together, or if your friend has ever said anything about liking you or given any signs that they might, such as by flirting with you.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Drop hints and flirt with her to see what happens. If you’re not quite ready to tell your friend how you feel, flirting with her might help you to decide. Try giving your friend compliments, making eye contact with her more often, and possibly even engaging in some playful teasing.

  • For example, you could say something like, “You look amazing in that dress! I can’t take my eyes off of you!” Or, you might say, “You’re so sweet! I could just eat you up!”

Tip: If you’re comfortable with touching your friend, you could gently touch her arm while talking with her or try nudging her gently with your shoulder when you’re walking together.

Part 2 of 3: Telling Her How You Feel Download Article

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Choose a good time and place to talk with your friend. Telling someone you like them is a delicate conversation, so make sure you will have time and privacy to do it properly. Ask your friend when might be a good time for her and arrange to meet up with her at a designated place.

  • Avoid talking with her in front of other people. Make sure that you will be alone for the conversation and in a place you both are comfortable with.
  • Try meeting up at a café and getting a corner table if you want to meet somewhere in public, or arrange to meet up at your house or hers for more privacy.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Take deep breaths to get your emotions under control. If you’re nervous about telling her, take a few deep breaths before you start talking. Breathe in through your nose to the count of 5, then hold the breath for 5 seconds, and exhale through your mouth to the count of 5. This should help you to feel calm, which will make it easier to talk without getting overly emotional.

  • Remind yourself to breathe deeply during the rest of the conversation as well.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Remove any distractions so you can focus on the conversation. Sit or stand so that you are facing her, such as across from her at a table or by turning towards her on a sofa. Make eye contact with her and put away anything that might distract you during the conversation, such as your cell phone, laptop, or tablet.

  • Remove any other distractions you can as well, such as by turning off the television.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Express your feelings for her in a straightforward manner. Tell the girl that you like her directly. Don’t beat around the bush or say anything mysterious. Just come right out and say it! Taking the leap will make the conversation much easier to get through.

  • Try saying something like, “Amanda, you’re one of my closest friends, and I also think I have developed some romantic feelings for you. It’s totally fine if you don’t feel the same way, but I wanted to tell you because I think I might regret it if I don’t.”
  • Or for an even simpler option, you could simply say, “Janice, I like you as more than a friend. I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I felt like I should tell you.”

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Text her if you’re worried about how she might react. If you’re worried about what she might say or if it just feels less scary to send her a text, it’s fine to do this. Keep the text short and simple. Try to let her know how you feel in 2-3 sentences, and let her know it’s okay if she doesn’t feel the same way. Try to end the text so it does not require a response if she’s uncomfortable responding. Plan to send the text in the afternoon or evening, not late at night or early in the morning since she may be annoyed by a text at an odd hour.

  • Try texting her something like, “Hi Melanie. I love spending time with you and I think I might have feelings for you, too. I don’t know if that’s something that you’re interested in exploring, but I just needed to tell you how I feel.”
  • Or, you could text her, “Christina, I’m going out on a limb here, but I think I am falling for you. I understand if you don’t feel the same way, but let me know if you do.”

Tip: Always use proper grammar and avoid acronyms when you text her. Put your best foot forward!

Part 3 of 3: Moving Forward with the Relationship Download Article

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Listen to your friend’s response after you tell her how you feel. Give your friend a chance to respond and listen to her carefully as she does. Your friend may tell you she likes you, too, she may ask for more time to process what you’ve told her, or she may tell you right away that she does not like you. However she responds, listen attentively and don’t interrupt her.

  • Try nodding and keeping a neutral expression while she talks to show her that you’re listening to her.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Prepare for her to seem a bit shocked. Your friend may seem a little shocked right after you tell her how you feel, so try to prepare yourself for this reaction. However, keep in mind that this is a normal reaction when someone finds out that a friend likes them. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you back, but she might not have thought of you in this way before.

  • You could try practicing interacting with your friend after telling her you like her, such as by role playing with another friend. Have them pretend to be the girl you like and react in a few different ways to help you determine how you should respond.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Make plans to do something fun with her if she says she likes you back. If after revealing your feelings to your friend, she tells you she likes you, too, make plans to do something together! Schedule your first date or just plan a casual outing together, such as to go see a movie or get coffee.

  • Try saying something like, “Would you like to go see a movie with me on Saturday evening?” or “I’d like to hang out with you sometime this week. When are you free?”

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Respond graciously if your friend does not feel the same way. It’s important to acknowledge that you accept your friend’s decision if she doesn’t return your feelings, especially if you want to preserve the friendship. Let her know that you still value her friendship and that you understand that they don’t feel the same way about you. Thank her for listening to you and for being honest with you.

  • Try saying something like, “I understand. I appreciate your honesty and I value your friendship.”

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to experience them. Once you’re on your own, allow yourself to feel sad and even cry about being rejected by your friend. This is normal and you are allowed to feel sad. Just be careful not to dwell on these feelings for too long.

  • For example, you could allow yourself to feel sad and cry about what happened for 1-2 days, but then make sure to get yourself out and do something fun to distract yourself.

How to Tell Your Girl (Friend) You Love Her As a Girl

Distance yourself from your friend for a while if you need space. If your friend has told you she does not reciprocate your feelings, spending time around her can be difficult. It’s okay to cancel plans you’ve made with her and avoid making new plans for a while. You might also reduce how often you see her by avoiding places you know she’ll be.

  • Try saying something like, “Janet, I value our friendship, but I need to work through some things before we spend time together again. I hope you understand.”
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