Trust is an invaluable part of any relationship. When you offer the gift of trust, you’re actually building the foundations for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. While you can’t wrap up this present or tie it in a bow, there are plenty of ways to show your girlfriend that you trust her completely. Not to worry—we’ve put together plenty of easy tips and suggestions to help you get started.
Method 1 of 10: Keep your phone out in the open.
Hiding your phone won’t accomplish anything good. Instead, try to put yourself in her shoes. If she was constantly locking and hiding her phone away, how would that make you feel? With this in mind, treat your girlfriend the same way you’d like to be treated. Try leaving your phone out in the open instead of slipping your phone into your pocket or stuffing it into a drawer.
- By leaving your phone out, you’re trusting that your girlfriend won’t dig through your phone when you step away.
Method 2 of 10: Give her space when she makes solo plans.
A healthy, trusting relationship shouldn’t require constant check-ins. Let your GF get some quality time with her besties instead of peppering her with texts throughout the night. If you truly trust your girlfriend, you don’t need to know what she’s up to 24/7. In fact, giving each other alone time is a sure sign that you’re in a healthy, trusting relationship.
- Supportive texts like “Have a great time!” or “Tell Kim and Lisa that I said hi!” are totally fine to send.
- Stay away from GPS tracking apps. If you really trust your girlfriend, you don’t need to know where she is constantly!
Method 3 of 10: Respect her privacy.
Don’t look through your GF’s things without her permission. If you have a question, ask her directly—don’t expect to find the answers stashed away in her bag or text messages. Setting healthy boundaries is a great way to show your girlfriend that you trust her.
Method 4 of 10: Share an embarrassing story or deep fear.
Making yourself a little vulnerable shows her that you trust her. Making yourself vulnerable can be really tricky, but it’s one of the easiest ways to show your girlfriend that you trust her. Let her in on something you’ve never told anyone before. By opening up, you’re trusting that she won’t share your secret with anyone else. You could mention:
- An embarrassing memory from your childhood
- Something you feel guilty about
- Your deepest fear
Method 5 of 10: Seek her advice about something important.
Asking for advice speaks volumes about how much you trust her. Instead of saying “I trust you,” show her that trust by coming to her with a recent problem or struggle. Asking for help lets her know that you value her advice and opinions. You could say:
- “My co-worker is really getting on my last nerve. Could you give me some advice?”
- “I don’t know how to open up to my dad, and it’s really eating me up inside. What should I do?”
- “You always give the best advice. What would you do if you were in my shoes?”
Method 6 of 10: Encourage her to plan the details of your next date.
Resist the temptation to plan every date and outing yourself. Making all the decisions starts to send the message that you don’t trust your girlfriend’s judgment. The next time you get together, ask her to choose your outing instead. You might say:
- “You have the best taste in restaurants. Where do you wanna eat tomorrow?”
- “What movie do you want to see this Friday?”
- “What do you want to do this weekend?”
Method 7 of 10: Split up and mingle separately at parties and clubs.
You don’t have to be attached at the hip when you go out together. It’s great to enjoy some drinks and grab a dance with your GF, but you shouldn’t act like her second shadow. Let her mix and mingle to her heart’s content without complaining about who she’s spending time with. If you really trust her, it won’t matter who she talks to or hangs out with throughout the night.
Method 8 of 10: Be honest about what you’re up to.
Lies and half-truths do nothing to foster trust. If your girlfriend asks you something, do your best to answer her honestly. You don’t have to rattle off some 2-paragraph response—just answer her questions, so there isn’t any room for doubt. If you feel like you need to hide something that’s perfectly innocent from your girlfriend, it shows that you don’t really trust her to believe you.
- If she asks who you’re texting, you might say, “Andrea from work” or “my sister.”
- If she’s curious about why you got home so late, you could say, “I ran into traffic” or “I bumped into Jess in the parking lot and we talked for 45 minutes straight.”
Method 9 of 10: Share your passwords.
Giving her the keys to your digital life requires a lot of trust. The idea isn’t to give her your passwords so she can check up on you, though! It’s more about you being willing to share them with her in the first place. You’re trusting her with this sensitive information with the expectation that she won’t read through your emails, texts, and DMs.
- Wait until your relationship is well-established before sharing anything super personal like your passwords.
Method 10 of 10: Make your own obstacle course.
If you want to try a trust exercise with your GF, give this a go! Blindfold yourself and invite your GF to lead you through the course. Trust that she’ll lead past the obstacles smoothly and that you won’t trip or get hurt in the process. Once you go through the course, reverse roles and guide her through the obstacles instead!
- You might place stacks of books on the floor, or rearrange the furniture into a tricky maze.