Method 1 of 10: Make eye contact and smile at people.
- Making eye contact makes you seem more approachable and friendly overall.
Method 2 of 10: Listen to the people around you.
- If someone’s telling you a story, you might ask things like, “Really? What happened next?” or, “Can you tell me more about that?”
Method 3 of 10: Be polite to others.
- Be sure you’re polite to your loved ones, as well! We sometimes forget to say “please” and “thank you” to our spouse or our parents, but they deserve it.
Method 4 of 10: Offer assistance to other people.The more you help others, the nicer you’ll become. Give up your seat to an elderly person on the bus, help your partner carry in groceries, or take on some extra work to give your coworker a break. It will make you feel good, and it will lift up those around you, too.
- You might be surprised: if you keep an open mind about what you can help out with, you might find lots of opportunities in your daily life.
Method 5 of 10: Apologize when you’re wrong.When you mess up, own up to it. You can do this in every aspect of your life: your work, your romantic relationships, and your friendships. If you make a mistake, say that you’re sorry and you’ll work to make sure it doesn’t happen again. The people in your life will thank you.
- Owning up to your mistakes also makes you seem more confident. Insecure people tend to blame others whenever they can, while people with high self-esteem own up to their faults.
Method 6 of 10: Forgive those who have wronged you.Let go of any anger or grudges you’re holding. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re saying that it was okay, it just means you’re changing your reaction to it. Make peace with anything that’s happened to you in the past so you can stop dwelling on it.
- It may not feel like it, but holding onto negative emotions can cloud your entire personality. Letting go of those emotions can free you up to become a nice person yet again.
- Forgiveness is a very personal decision, and you never have to tell someone you forgive them if you don’t want to.
Method 7 of 10: Take responsibility for your actions.Don’t blame others when things don’t go right. It can feel easy to point the finger at your coworkers, your family, or even the universe when things don’t line up. Try to remember that you’re in control of your own life, and only you can change what happens around you.
- Of course, you can’t always control what happens to you, but you can always control how you react to it.
- Being in control of your own life can make you a happier, healthier person.
Method 8 of 10: Look on the bright side of things.
- For instance, maybe you lose your job. However, now you have time to focus on your small business and grow your customer base without worrying about your day job.
Method 9 of 10: Try not to be overly critical of others.
- Similarly, you should try not to gossip about other people. Talking badly behind someone’s back only spreads negativity.
Method 10 of 10: Practice self care.
Do something relaxing every day that makes you feel good. It could be going for a jog, taking a bubble bath, listening to good music, or reading a new book. Whatever helps you wind down and relax is something that will lower your stress levels so you can be a nicer person.
- Try to keep yourself healthy, too. Exercise daily, eat a balanced diet, and aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night.