Method 1 of 9: Recognize what you bring to the relationship.
- You might also think about how you make your partner feel: loved, happy, or cared for.
Method 2 of 9: Silence your inner critic.
- When you notice a harsh thought like that, try saying something like, “That’s not helpful right now” to yourself. It can banish the thought and stop it in its tracks.
Method 3 of 9: Repeat positive affirmations to yourself.
- “I am good.”
- “I love myself.”
- “My partner is lucky to have me.”
- “I am enough.”
Method 4 of 9: Accept yourself for who you are.
- If there’s anything you want to change about yourself (like being more outgoing or a little funnier), you can definitely work on those things. However, you should do them for yourself, not anyone else.
Method 5 of 9: Maintain your friendships and your hobbies.
Don’t dedicate all of your time to your relationship. Losing yourself in a relationship can cause you to feel insecure and uncertain about it. While it’s fine to dedicate time to your partner, make sure you’re still keeping up with your friends and the things you like to do for fun.
- Spending time away from your partner can actually be good for your relationship. When you spend time apart, you have a chance to miss each other.
Method 6 of 9: Practice self care.
Do something every day that makes you feel good. You might soak in a bubble bath, paint your nails, read a good book, or head out into nature. The more you can pamper yourself and destress, the better you’ll feel overall.
- If it makes you feel more confident, you can also spend time on your appearance. When you look good, you feel good, too.
Method 7 of 9: Remember the times you’ve been complete without a partner.
You’ve been single before, and you still remained a whole person. There’s a myth that we all need someone to be complete, but that’s not the case. Remember that you can survive on your own, even if you don’t have a partner.
- Keeping this in mind can help you rely on yourself more and maintain your confidence.
Method 8 of 9: Open up to your partner.
Be vulnerable with them to create a stronger connection. When you let your guard down and tell your partner about yourself, you’re building a solid foundation for your relationship. Try to open up about your own hopes, dreams, and fears to feel confident that your partner knows who you are.
- You don’t have to open up all at once, but it’s nice to gradually let your partner in a little bit at a time.
Method 9 of 9: Set boundaries with your partner.
Let them know what you’re okay with and what you aren’t. For instance, maybe you don’t appreciate it when your partner spends time with an ex or texts other women. If you two can discuss what you both want out of your relationship, you’re more likely to feel comfortable and confident.
- Keep your expectations reasonable, though. For instance, you shouldn’t expect access to your partner’s phone 24/7, since that’s an invasion of privacy.
- Your partner might also have some boundaries they’d like to talk about as well.