Method 1 of 3: Initiating the Conversation
- Text her something like, “Hey, how’s your day been?”
- Avoid starting the conversation with “Hey” and nothing else. She may not know how to respond that.
- Reference an inside joke that you share, like a funny thing in class that happened the other day.
- Send over a funny picture of a cat with the caption, “Thought you might appreciate this…”
- Text her something like, “I didn’t see you in class today! How am I supposed to go through Chemistry alone?”
- Give her a subtle, genuine compliment. If you just met, text her something like, “I had a great time talking to you at the party last week. You’ve got an amazing sense of humor!”
- If you know her a little better, try, “I loved that sweater you were wearing today.”
Method 2 of 3: Having a Great Date
- Text her, “Would you want to see a movie with me next Saturday?”
- Alternatively, be a little playful with your ask. Try, “I want to see the new Final Destination on Friday, but I’m scared to see it alone. Any chance you want to come with me?”
- If you’d like, ask if she’d like to get dinner before the movie. That way you can talk a little bit and get to know each other before it starts.
- Text her something like, “I totally understand. Thank you for letting me know!”
- Look at the experience as practice for asking people out. What you did took guts, so congratulate yourself for your courage!
Pick a movie that she wants to see. Text her and ask what kind of movies she enjoys. If she’s open to anything or doesn’t have a suggestion, look up a few movies and offer some choices. Pick a variety of films to choose from, like a horror movie, a comedy, and an action film.
- Choosing a movie that you both will enjoy ups the chances of having a great date.
Order yummy snacks at the movies. To make the experience more fun, go all out with snacks and drinks. Order some popcorn, a soda, and plenty of candy. If you’re not a fan of the selection at the theater or the prices are expensive, consider going to a convenience store and sneaking in snacks with your date. This can make the date feel a little more spontaneous and exciting.
- Sneak in snacks at your own risk. Most movie theaters don’t technically allow this.
Be affectionate with your date during the movie. If you both feel comfortable, try holding her hand, putting your arm around her, or even kissing her on the cheek. To determine if she’s comfortable, start slow. Lean towards her and whisper in her ear during the movie. If she smiles and leans in to listen, that’s a good sign that she may respond well to more affectionate gestures.
- Only do things that you’re both comfortable with. If your date doesn’t want to talk or get close during the movie, she may just be shy or super into the film.
Method 3 of 3: Following Up Afterwards
Let her know that you had a great time. If you really enjoyed her company, tell her! Don’t worry about texting her too soon. Text her when you get home or wait until the next day to share how much fun you had.
- Send a brief message like, “Hey hope you got home safe! I had a great time tonight” or “Last night was so fun! Thanks again for a great Saturday.”
- Send her 1 message to start things off. Though you may be tempted to send her a bunch of texts about how cool she is, take it slow to avoid texting too much too soon.
Talk to her about the movie and ask her what she thought. Keep the conversation going by referencing a particularly funny part of the film. If it was a scary movie, make a joke about that jump scare that both caught you off guard!
Ask her for a second date if it went well. Don’t be shy if you had a really great time. There’s a huge chance she did, too. Let her know you enjoy spending time with her and suggest another activity for a second date.
- Think of a different activity than watching a movie so that you can both learn new things about each other. Try going mini-golfing, getting lunch at a hip restaurant, or walking a trail at a local park.